Who is at risk for developing anorexia nervosa?
People who become anorexic often were good children — eager to please, conscientious, hard working, and good students. Typically they are people pleasers who seek approval and avoid conflict. They may take care of other people and strive for perfection, but underneath they feel defective and inadequate. They want to be special, to stand out from the mediocre masses. They try to achieve that goal by losing weight and being thin.
Some clinicians believe that the symptoms of anorexia are a kind of symbolic language used by people who don’t know how to, or are afraid to, express powerful emotions directly, with words. For example, making one’s body tiny and thin may substitute for, “I’m not ready to grow up yet,” or “I’m starving for attention.” Refusing to eat may translate to “I won’t let you control me!”
People who develop anorexia often feel stressed and anxious when faced with new situations. Many are perfectionists who have low tolerance for change (including the normal physical changes their bodies experience at puberty), feeling that it represents chaos and loss of control. Some set rigid, unrealistic standards for themselves and feel they have failed totally when they cannot achieve and maintain the degree of excellence they demand of themselves.
Although people with eating disorders don’t want to admit it, many fear growing up, taking on adult responsibilities, and meeting the demands of independence. Many are overly engaged with parents to the exclusion of peer relationships. They use dieting and weight preoccupations to avoid, or ineffectively cope with, the demands of a new life stage such as adolescence, living away from home, or adult sexuality.
This is so true :/
Erghh, I hate these photos taken of me, I look so bloated. It’s just incredible how insulin changes you. The woman who took them is so excited and I honestly hate them, seriously down right now and I’m really trying to be positive! Tomorrow is a new day…
Sometimes just listening to Spanish makes me feel better. I really miss it at the moment!